So this week was Shane and my anniversary! Needless to say it was very uneventful. I'm hoping that we can do something nice soon for it, considering I had to work. But last Sun, I got pulled over for doing 44 in a 25! First off I was aware I was going a bit over the speed limit, but come on! This was also taking place at 11:20 in the evening, no one was out, I had just finished working a 16-hour shift. The street that I was on has 2 different speed limit signs posted on the street. However, there were no signs to indicate when the speed changed until right before you turn the corner to go onto a different street which that speed limit is 45. First off, I did see my speedometer and I was going 40, not 44! Secondly, just this past week (Tue) I believe I saw new signs being put up from the point where I saw the sign last. This irks me slightly, because it seems to me that when you have to cities located within 15 mins of each other, one seems to be more strict than the other. Like take for example, in Omaha (my city of residence), most of the police there will pull you over for major things. But in matters of a trivial matter, i.e blinker not being used, etc. they really don't care for the most part because they are dealing with much bigger fish, than lil old small traffic issues. But yet in the small city of Bellevue, which is about 20 mins away from where in Omaha I live, it seems like the police there are more bored; so of course naturally, they want to pull you over for every little thing that you did wrong. Now, this is the first speeding ticket I've had in over 5 years. I'm less than amused. But now because of this cop who had nothing better to do than pull me over, question me on where I was headed to (which I responded "home"), where I was coming from (which I responded 16-hour shift from work), where I worked at, which site I worked at. Really? This has pertinence on me getting a ticket because why? Do I look that suspicious because of the color of my skin? Or for the simple fact that you have nothing else better to do than park yourself in a parking lot of a closed business to set up your trap to meet your quota?
Now onto something that has come to light, well, been shining in the light for a very long time. I've known all my life that I'm very intelligent. Always was the scholar who barely had to study for exams because everything came naturally to me. But as it turns out, when it comes to matters of common sense and remembering common daily-to-do's; I seem to be a very forgetful person. Case in point Owl, from the Winnie the Pooh stories; very intelligent and wise is he, but always seems to be forgetting the simple things. Now, most everyone in my life has never seemed to be bothered by this, but now it seems to be affecting my marriage. My husband, seems to be annoyed at his wits end with the fact that when most people remember certain things I seem to forget. Take for example, my Driver's License; since I started a job where it seems like the people I work with will go into my purse and steal things, I decided to stop carrying my purse. The potential problem with this is I don't always remember to take my id out of my worn pants/shorts and place it on the table so I remember to take it with me the next day. But it's not just that one thing, there's been occasions where I've taken items home with me because I've forgotten they were in my pockets. I remember when my mother used to be so mad at me because I forgot to clear out my pockets before they went into the wash. It's not that I don't want to remember, it just seems like even when I set myself out with the focus to remember home routines every now and then I'll forget, and it'll put my husband in a foul mood because he constantly feels like he has to remind me. It seems like this is turning into a parent-child relationship, which is making neither of us happy. Primarily because in a marriage we should both have partners we can trust who will be responsible; ones we know that if we have children, if we're at work, we know that the children will be fed, the house will be taken care of (not burned down!). I just don't know what to do. I'm also at my wits end because I feel like the child in the relationship. I'm tired of his constant reminders if I have this or that, no I don't have anything else besides x things in my pockets. If I put the trash in the bathroom so our "furry" children don't get into it, etc. I just wish that I could flip a switch and it would all be better. Maybe I write myself little post-its to constantly remind myself of the things? Or write it all on a piece of paper (i.e. schedule of days- i.e. what day of what week I do what... etc) All I know is, the sooner this improves, the sooner our relationship doesn't feel so strained...... Have a blessed day!
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. - Mark Twain
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